How to Minimize Jealousy in a Relationship

When you have your other significant, they say that being jealous once in a while is healthy in your relationship. However, when this ‘once-in-a-while’ turns into ‘always-and-forever’, this can obviously destroy the relationship. The start of nonsense talks, shouting, screaming will soon reign in your conversation.

But what really is the feeling of being jealous?

Afraid of losing your partner? Scared that he/she might bump and dump you into someone who is much more handsome, prettier, or sexier? Or nervous that he/she might fall in love with his/her officemate? Hmm. Sounds familiar?

If you’re reading this right now, I know you have been jealous numerous times already and if you are still experiencing it right now, written below are the tips and steps on how to minimize jealousy in your relationship.

1. SPEAK UP

If someone in the relationship is jealous, that means he/she wants something to be answered. Maybe your girl saw you ‘somewhat’ flirting with your officemate, or maybe you saw your girl with another boy eating lunch together. Speak up! Yes! Let your partner know that you want an answer. Do not just shrug your shoulder and think, ‘Yes, I’m jealous, but I don’t want him to know. I’ll just give him a silent treatment. I’ll just cry.’ Never do this because this will eat up your system and will cause you sleepless nights thinking who that boy/girl could be. Familiar with the quote, ‘Truth will set you free’? That’s indeed true.

So, let your partner know in a low and understanding voice.

2. MAKE ARRANGEMENTS WITH YOUR PARTNER

If you have already opened the topic with your significant other, both of you should make a plan – a way to solve your problem. If she is jealous with your officemate, then let her feel that she has nothing to worry about by introducing her to your office that she is your girl. Let her feel always that he/she doesn’t have to compete with other boys/girls for your attention because for once and for all, he/she is your lover.

Remember that simple things always matter.

3. STRENGTHEN YOUR BOND AND COMMUNICATION

By having a partner, a husband, or a wife means to have a shoulder to cry on, a best friend, a brother, and a sister – someone who will be there through ups and downs.

For a relationship to work out, both teams should have time for each other. Watch a movie, go on a picnic or cook food together are just one of those examples that will help strengthen your bond as couples.

If you have a long distance relationship, make communication as one of your priorities. Remember that communication is the way to a long and lasting relationship.

Never forget that in a relationship, there will always be two individuals that have to fight for the sake of the relationship. Never leave your partner hanging. Never make him/her alone because once this happens, not just jealousy will be the problem.

4. PRAY TOGETHER

This is the most important thing in a relationship. It must be built under God’s love and care. His guidance will always bring out the best in both of you. Jealousy will be minimized if you always listen to God’s word and the trust to your partner will be stronger.

I remember that I have always prayed to God that He may give me someone who will lift me up higher to Him. And now, my partner is indeed God sent for he brings out the best in me.

If you still don’t have someone worth loving, pray. And if you are now in a relationship under His care, nurture it, be blessed and contented. Pray and read the Bible together. This will surely help minimize jealousy in your relationship.